by Cathy Arden on August 25, 2015


I resort to making a list when anxiety gets the better of me. This one covers decades.

  1. This is what happened to me in the 80’s:
    a. My sister died of breast cancer. She was 33.
    b. I was raped at gunpoint in Central Park.
    c. I survived.
    d. I fell in love.
    e. I moved across the country.
    f. I moved back again.
    g. I got married.
    h. I got pregnant.
    i. I gave birth to my daughter.
  2. This is what happened to me in the 90’s:
    a. I got pregnant.
    b. I was betrayed.
    c. My husband told me he was gay.
    d. I gave birth to my son.
    e. I got divorced.
    f. I survived.
    g. I fell in love.
    h. I got engaged.
    i. My heart was broken.
  3. This is what happened to me from 2000-Present:
    a. I ended a relationship.
    b. I moved to Paris with young children.
    c. I moved back to NY with my children after a year in Paris.
    d. I fell in love.
    e. I got engaged.
    f. I renovated my house.
    g. I combined two families.
    h. I was betrayed.
    i. My father died.
    j. My stepfather died.
    k. I ended a relationship.
    l. I took my daughter to college.
    m. My mother became severely disabled with dementia.
    n. I watched my daughter graduate college.
    o. I moved my mother into my house.
    p. My mother had a stroke.
    q. I took my son to college.
    r. I moved across the country with my mother.
    s. I sold a house on the East Coast.
    t. I bought a house on the West Coast.
    u. I adopted a rescue dog.
    v. I watched my son graduate college.
    w. I started 2 new careers , immersing myself in 3 careers.
    x. My mother died.
    y. I was in a car accident.
    z. I survived.


{ 8 comments… read them below or add one }

Annie Allman Curtis August 25, 2015 at 6:34 PM

You are truly awesome. I would love to read or watch the story of your life.


Cathy Arden August 25, 2015 at 11:43 PM

Wow, Annie. Thanks! Just finished my novel, THE RED DIRT ROAD. Hopefully, it will be out there soon so you can read it!


Father Alexandrov August 28, 2015 at 9:42 AM

You were betrayed and you survived. Glad you did.


Cathy Arden October 17, 2015 at 1:26 PM

Steve, thank you. I think I’ll go back to calling you Steve. Father Alexandrov has moved on, I believe. Sorry it’s taken me so long to see your comment and respond. I’ll check in more frequently here from now on.


Amy Louise Pommier August 30, 2015 at 12:14 PM

Seeing all of your life in list form is humbling and overwhelming….What’s marvelous is that through all of the struggles you’ve raised two fabulous kids and are involved in so much creative work! As always, I admire your strength and drive to keep going positively through all of it. Love and creativity can get one through a lot….but it takes even more than that, and clearly you’ve been able to summon the forces you’ve needed. May the blossoming continue! And may you keep writing about it all, as long as the desire to do so flourishes!


Cathy Arden October 17, 2015 at 1:25 PM

Amy, thank you so much for your comment. Sorry it’s taken me so long to see it and respond. I forget to check in, but will more frequently from now on! Sending you love.


george gerdes October 15, 2015 at 11:10 PM

Bold & Beautiful. Sans filigree or garnish. Honest. Heart beating behind every one of them.

I really look forward to THE RED DIRT ROAD.


Cathy Arden October 17, 2015 at 1:23 PM

Thank you so much, George. Much appreciated.


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